DR. WANGO GEOFFREY MBUGUA

Psychologist Geoffrey Wango said most domestic violence incidents are preventable and there are better ways a couple can handle issues such as anger and conflict.

“When you get in a relationship, you are excited and elated, but remember, you are two different personalities relationship is a process that requires to be worked on. It is important to work out a relationship and learn to sort out issues between yourselves,” he said.

Wango said there are people who are violent, psychopaths and narcissists, but it is advisable that everyone learns to control their emotions, particularly anger.

He urged people with anger management issues and a temperament to seek help from a counselor before they engage in a relationship.

“Learn to pick out anger signs like frequent tantrums, hitting you, breaking objects and general arrogance and a don't-care attitude,”

Wango said.

Some issues, he said, can turn into crisis, such as mistrust and dishonesty and a cheating spouse, adding that they are signs that something is not right and should be sorted out not fought over.

“There could be things that have turned sour, but hitting or worse still killing your spouse is not and never will be a solution. Males must effectively deal with their insecurities, frustrations and disappointments.

Instead find out what could be happening, like lack of love or diminished attention, and hence a partner goes out seeking the same,”

Wango said.

“We need to teach our traditional males to avoid being too egoistic. You cannot be violent at home to your spouse or children. Instead, learn to sort things out.”